Use this quiz to find out what kind of attention works the best for you. Do you like visual attention, auditory attention, or kinesthetic attention? If you are feeling lonely, unloved, hurt, or like roommates you need to figure out what kind of love you need for yourself and your partner and start to bring it.
The key to any relationship is love. The key to understanding love is attention. Love and attention are so intimately linked we use the words interchangeably. It is impossible for me to express my love while working intently on the computer or being engrossed in a TV program. However, if I stop and look at my partner in the eyes and for that moment bring them my full attention, I would be expressing my feelings without having to even use words.
What couples need to also understand is that different people like different kinds of attention. To only feed our partner with the kind of attention you prefer (which is what happens) your partner’s love weaken and fade. Education tells us there are three types of learners, three ways students attend, visual, auditory, and kinesthetic (physical). Those three sensory preferences also make up the visual, talking, and physical lovers.Some people are visual and attend to how things appear. An auditory person is acutely aware of what and how things are said. Finally, there are people who are geared toward physical contact are attuned to touch. Enclosed you will find a test which will help you and your partner determine what style of attention you each desire.
The enclosed test helps you and your partner determine what kind of attention each of you needs and wants. With this new understanding we can then begin to be more intentional in the kind of love we are expressing. The physical lover will stop grabbing his wife’s butt, and instead show his love with a smile (if she is visual) or a thank you (if she is the talking type).
Have fun with the test and if you need more resources I recommend the book, You Can Be Right Or You Can Be Married- Love Based Solution for Couples. Or the Date Night Deck which has 52 date night ideas for couple to use to strengthen their relationship.
