http://www.helptalking.com/husband-does-not-respect-me Coaching Couples Through Conflict Thu, 11 Aug 2011 19:02:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.helptalking.com/husband-does-not-respect-me/comment-page-1#comment-5270 Brett Williams Thu, 11 Aug 2011 18:56:56 +0000 http://www.helptalking.com/?p=1422#comment-5270 The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. If you husband does not want to grow up then you trying to get him to over and over is going to drive both of you crazy. Here are your two choices. 1 Accept him for who he is. 2. Move on. The option you keep trying does not exist. Well, there really is a third option. You can change yourself. Often we are unhappy and we think being married will make us happy. And when it does not we want to blame our partner. "IF HE WOULD LISTEN...I WOULD BE HAPPY." He may never listen. But if you focus on yourself and learn to make yourself happy two things could happen. 1. It will not matter he does not listen, because you are happy with yourself. Or 2. being happy will give you the strength to find a relationship in which you can share your happiness. You may not like what you hear, but then you would be just like your husband someone who does not listen. Learn to be HAPPY. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. If you husband does not want to grow up then you trying to get him to over and over is going to drive both of you crazy. Here are your two choices. 1 Accept him for who he is. 2. Move on. The option you keep trying does not exist. Well, there really is a third option. You can change yourself. Often we are unhappy and we think being married will make us happy. And when it does not we want to blame our partner. “IF HE WOULD LISTEN…I WOULD BE HAPPY.” He may never listen. But if you focus on yourself and learn to make yourself happy two things could happen. 1. It will not matter he does not listen, because you are happy with yourself. Or 2. being happy will give you the strength to find a relationship in which you can share your happiness. You may not like what you hear, but then you would be just like your husband someone who does not listen. Learn to be HAPPY.

]]> http://www.helptalking.com/husband-does-not-respect-me/comment-page-1#comment-4724 Mayra Sat, 25 Jun 2011 21:24:03 +0000 http://www.helptalking.com/?p=1422#comment-4724 No one marries a teenager. To tell the wife, "Oh, just treat your husband as a teenager" will make the wife feel like his mommy. No one wants to be a mommy to a 35 year old baby-boy. The man should act like a man, and go get some maturity. If at 35 he has not yet learned to hear and respect other people's opinions, regardless of whether the person who has an opinion is 20 years old, then that 35-year old has not matured beyond the age of 7. No one marries a teenager. To tell the wife, “Oh, just treat your husband as a teenager” will make the wife feel like his mommy. No one wants to be a mommy to a 35 year old baby-boy. The man should act like a man, and go get some maturity. If at 35 he has not yet learned to hear and respect other people’s opinions, regardless of whether the person who has an opinion is 20 years old, then that 35-year old has not matured beyond the age of 7.

]]> http://www.helptalking.com/husband-does-not-respect-me/comment-page-1#comment-206 Ambrosia Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:14:35 +0000 http://www.helptalking.com/?p=1422#comment-206 Great advice! She has to find peace and confidence within herself first and foremost. However, it can be terrible stressful to live with someone who finds it more important to prove a point than to listen, someone who derives his (or her) sense of self-esteem by minimizing the opinions and thoughts of his (or her) partner. It would seem to me that this young woman has her work cut out for her. I would say her husband does, too. After all, why did he marry someone over whom he is so senior and feel such a need to wield authority? Great advice! She has to find peace and confidence within herself first and foremost. However, it can be terrible stressful to live with someone who finds it more important to prove a point than to listen, someone who derives his (or her) sense of self-esteem by minimizing the opinions and thoughts of his (or her) partner. It would seem to me that this young woman has her work cut out for her. I would say her husband does, too. After all, why did he marry someone over whom he is so senior and feel such a need to wield authority?

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