Dear Mr. Marriage, I am feelings hopeless about my relationship, my job, and my finances. Please help, Hopeless
Dear Hopeless,
Without more details about what’s going on with you relationship, job, or finances, it could be hard to answer your question. But the truth is I love your question, it’s perfect. You could have just signed your name and I would have know everything in your life is falling apart. You see your problems are all starting with the fact that you identify yourself as “Hopeless”. 
Remember Eeyore from Winnie-the-Pooh? He was not the picture of resourcefulness and power. He believed nothing worked out for him and because he believed it that is exactly what happened. Now from Eeyore’s point of view he believed that events created his mood. And I am sure that Eeyore had lots of evidence that he could point to that caused him to feel hopeless. As an outsider looking in on Eeyore’s life you have to wonder which came first. Did the negative events create his negative mood? Or did his negative mood have a negative affect on the events?
Because good things seem to happen to people with good attitudes, and bad things seem to happen to people who have negative attitudes, you have to believe that attitude affects our lives.
Alright Hopeless. Here’s your assignment. For the next week you are going to call yourself by a different name: Powerful, Resourceful, or Lucky.
Don’t do anything to change anything in your life, relationship, job, or finances. What you will do is think of yourself identified as a new person. “I am powerful. I have power running all though my body. My thoughts are powerful. My voice is powerful. My mind is the most powerful of all. I have the power to walk, talk, think, and live. I have the power to think, and to create change. I have the power to make myself into anything I want.” Fill your days and nights with thoughts of how powerful you are. If that’s the new name you want to take on.
Don’t worry if it is a name that fits or feels right, pick any new name that represents how you want to live your life.
For me I have three words. “I am Loving, healing, and blessed.” I run those three words through my head as I run, when I am driving, any time I have free moment. It is what I want to give to the world, and what I want to get from the world. So it is how I identify myself.
Give me a call at the end of the week and let’s hear the difference a new identity can bring.
