Dear Mr. Marriage, I love my relationship but I sometimes get afraid it will not last. How do you predict the success or failure of a relationship?
Worried (no name left)
Dear Worried,
The best way to predict your future is by creating your future. I believe we all have a destiny we are here to fulfill, but there is also the element of free will. The choices we make, positive or negative, affect that destiny.
Our body is a good example. It is built to last for 80 to 100 years. The choices along the way effect how that destiny plays out.
People all over the world have destinies that they are not fulfilled because of their fears or they do not realize who they are. It takes courage and devotion to be who you are meant to be. For you to have the relationship you want, you need to be all you can be. The question is…are you willing to become who you were meant to be?
The formula for a healthy relationship is very simple. Just as your body needs daily nourishment, so does your relationship. Feed it love, and love is simply attention. There are three types of attention, physical, visual, and auditory. Hence make sure everyday you touch 8-10 times. Spend 10 minutes talking about each other about your lives. Avoid using this time to talk about kids and schedules. Finally, show your love. Smile at each other, look at each other as you talk, leave notes, or pick up your dirty socks off the floor. These little things are great gestures of affection and love.
Feed your relationship everyday and the relationship will last till death do you part.
Brett R. Williams,
Mr. Marriage
